National Association of Adult Survivors of Child Abuse

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  The BIG Lie That's Sabotaging Your Life

by Svava Brooks -- NAASCA family member and Abuse Survivor Coach

I know how you feel. You survived child sexual abuse and grew up to be a generous, loving, hardworking person.  You never gave up. You kept pushing through and became a success against all the odds.

Yet…

Even though you've worked really hard on your healing and made tremendous progress, some parts of your life refuse to improve. For example, your relationships are unsatisfying, and you still attract the wrong kind of people into your life.

Why is that?

Believe it or not, you're sabotaging yourself in those areas, and I know how it's happening. There's a BIG lie buried deep in your subconscious. It's the lie you had to believe as a child in order to survive the abuse.

Even though you've worked hard to put the past behind you, you're still living in the past in those areas of your life. That's because you “normalized' your abusive past in order to survive it.  

You had to. You were emotionally abandoned, sexually abused, unloved, unappreciated, and unprotected as a child. You had to make that “okay.” It was the only way to survive until you were old enough to leave that abusive environment.

This is why you attract narcissists into your life today, people who neglect, abuse, and constantly undervalue you. Your subconscious thinks that kind of behavior is “normal.” To fix this, change your idea of normal. That's the only way to attract people who appreciate you.

I help my clients accomplish this by digging deep to discover how many of their childhood wounds have been normalized. Then we create positive affirmations to reeducate the subconscious and teach it the true meaning of normal. This is a favorite:

I am valuable and loveable, and everyone in my life treats me with respect and kindness.  
I only choose to be with people who want what is best for me
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That's a good affirmation, isn't it? And it works, too!

If you'd like to talk more about how to dig deep and uncover old wounds from the past that you've normalized, schedule a FREE 30-minute coaching session with me. This isn't an easy task to tackle alone. You've normalized so much of the abuse it's hard to recognize what's NOT normal, you know? But it's easy for me to see, because I do this with my clients every day. I can help you, too. Call me anytime!

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Are you a survivor of child abuse or trauma? Are you stuck on your healing journey? Is your marriage or love relationship a mess? If so, I'd be happy to teach you how to fix that.  Follow (this link) or call 619-889-6366 to reserve a FREE 30-minute session with me. My calendar is filling up fast with these sessions, so don't wait. Let me help you heal your life.  Reserve your spot NOW!

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